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13 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From Meeting Arnold Schwarzenegger!

I Met My Childhood Hero and This is What He Taught Me!

I had the absolute pleasure and honor of meeting Arnold Schwarzenegger at the Arnold Classic in Columbus, Ohio recently. Arnold has reached an unprecedented level of success in a multitude of diverse areas and is clearly one of the most iconic individuals on the planet. I’ve watched his movies. I’ve read his books. Now I’ve had the opportunity to hear him speak and shake his hand. It’s cool to meet one of your childhood heroes, especially when they are still cool.

Arnold isn’t just a celebrity. He was governor of California twice! He is an incredible chess player. He is a statesman, a philanthropist, author, speaker, actor, and more! The more I learn about him, the more impressed I become. He strives to improve in all areas of life. I’m into that. I wish I could have asked him questions or interviewed him on my podcast, but just to hear him speak and shake his hand was really cool too.

This is some of what he has taught me:

1. Your Name is Your Brand: Early in his career people tried talk Arnold out of using his real name, Schwarzenegger. They thought it would deter people. He’s now an icon! Make your name mean something. Your reputation and personal integrity are invaluable assets in life. Everything you do reflects on your name, so always uphold it. Arnold’s name represents so much in fitness, public service, movies, books, and more!

2. Fit First. Fit Final: Arnold’s focus on fitness created the discipline and habits that transferred to all areas of life. Physical fitness is not just about looking good; it’s about being disciplined, committed, and resilient. It’s a metaphor for life—building strength and endurance to face challenges head-on. Focus on getting fitter and you will improve in other areas too. He’s 76, just got a pacemaker, and he’s still rocking the gym. Let’s go! This is my #1 Goal this year.

3. Stay Relevant: Arnold is as popular now as he ever was. He’s got a hit TV show, podcast, making movies, writing bestsellers, and more. He’s been doing this for over 50 years. Luck? I think not! Adaptability and staying current are essential in a rapidly changing world. Embrace new ideas and technologies to remain relevant in your field.

4. Be Good and Kind: Arnold is a giver, and he always has been. I love that about him. I watched him look out for others. Success means nothing if it comes at the expense of others. Use your platform and resources to lift others up. I respect him so much for his commitment to the Special Olympics. Always strive to be a good person and show kindness and compassion to those around you.

5. Make Time for Others: I watched Arnold at the Arnold Classic take time to talk with everyday people like me. He just likes people! It’s awesome! I have seen so many people make it and quit connecting as if they are above that.  True fulfillment comes from meaningful connections and relationships. Prioritize spending time with loved ones and supporting those in need.

6. Build & Rule Your Empire Well: I love that Arnold is awesome at a lot of different things! I remember him starring in Conan the Barbarian, and he really has become the warrior king. He has built an empire and takes care of a lot of people. It is cool to see in real life. Success is not just about achieving your goals but also about managing them effectively. Build your empire with integrity and lead with purpose.

7. Celebrate Others: Watching Arnold watch amateur athletes at the Arnold Classic was really fun. He celebrated everyone as if they were world champions. He looks for the good in others first and foremost. Acknowledge and celebrate the achievements of others. A rising tide lifts all boats, and supporting others’ success can contribute to your own.

8. Keep Adding Multiple Revenue Streams and Never Stop: Movies, sports, books, television, podcasts, apps, workout videos, newsletters and everywhere imaginable, you will find Arnold. If you want to be successful you need more than one stream of income. Diversify your sources of income and always be open to new opportunities for growth and financial stability.

9. Build a Community and Keep Them Excited: Arnold’s newsletter is great. I read it every morning. His community on his Pump Club App is on fire! Arnold has a way of bringing people together and getting them excited about the possibility of what could be. Cultivate a loyal community around your brand or mission and keep them engaged and enthusiastic about what you’re doing. It can be in the classroom, your family, or a side hustle. Build a community not customers.

10. Make Someone Else the Villain: Arnold absolutely takes ownership for his mistakes, but he has some fun with it too. I watched him speak in Columbus and someone asked if he would be on their podcast. (I’d like in on that too. LOL.) Arnold did NOT say no, instead he said, “Yes, I would love to but Keshel is responsible for booking me on podcasts. He checks on all of that and if I cannot make it, blame him,” and he laughed. It was pretty cool. Take responsibility for your actions and avoid blaming others for your failures or setbacks, but have some fun with it too. Explain to others why it might not work out. Don’t say yes and not do it, and don’t say no either.

11. Have an Annual Event and Keep Improving It: Arnold looked like he was with family at the Arnold Classic that he holds once a year, and I believe it to be true. I think we should all create an annual event to reconnect and celebrate with others. I know I am now going to do that. Create traditions or events that bring people together and continually strive to make them better each year. Arnold does!

12. Positivity Wins: Arnold seems to always have a smile on his face, even when lifting heavy weights and flexing. (Except maybe in the movies when he is fighting Predator.) Maintain a positive attitude even in the face of challenges. Optimism and resilience can help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals.

13. Partner with Others: Arnold’s a BIG deal, but he understands the importance of partnering with others like the editors of his newsletter Adam Borstein and Danny Keschel as well as other actors and leaders in his lifetime. As an actor, governor, and businessman, Arnold is smart to make partnerships and work with others. We need to do the same. Collaboration and partnerships can amplify your impact and bring about mutually beneficial outcomes.

I really could easily add thirteen more, but this is already too long. I recommend reading his books, joining his Pump Club app, and subscribing to his newsletter.

Arnold is a competitor. He seeks competition because it pushes him. I heard him tell others to Get a Mission! Work Hard! and Be Useful! I became a founding member of his Pump Club and I would love to interview him on my Wired Educator Podcast to inspire educators and students and talk about his commitment to The Special Olympics.

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s wisdom encompasses far more than just lifting weights or starring in action movies. His insights into success, integrity, and resilience are applicable to all aspects of life. Let’s embrace these lessons and strive to become the best versions of ourselves, just as Arnold has done throughout his extraordinary life.

The two books I read of his are:

Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life 

and

Arnold: The Education of a Bodybuilder (Which teaches us how to get after our goals.)

In case you haven’t figured it out, I’m sorta a big fan of Arnold. I wanted to share this very special memory with you.

Let’s continue to inspire and uplift one another. Everyone has something to teach us, whether they are as famous as Arnold, a colleague or neighbor. Take time to connect and learn from everyone we encounter.

Always forward,

Kelly

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Silicone Bracelets are My Tattoos

Advertising to Myself the Mindset I Need

My dad served in the Navy during the Korean War, and he had one tattoo. It was on his left upper arm, tattooed in green, depicting his beloved horse, Bud Will.

Bud Will was Dad’s racing horse, a cherished companion. Bud had passed away before I was born.

When I was little, Dad would sometimes call out to me, “You want to ride a racehorse?”

“Yes, of course!” I’d respond with a gigantic grin.

Dad would then roll up the sleeve of his white t-shirt to reveal Bud Will. He’d place me on his knee and perform a pretty good imitation of a bugle before a race. If you know, you know. “And they’re off…” Dad would say, bouncing his knee, announcing the advancing positions of each horse, who was on the inside lane, every turn, with me almost falling off in excitement.

Bud Will always won. Every time.

After the race, Dad would put me back on the floor, look me in the eye with forearms as thick as tree trunks, and say, “You better never get a tattoo.”

And I didn’t. And I won’t.

Those memories are precious.

Tattoos are cool. I see guys with with sleeves of intricate designs and they evoke sincere admiration from me; however, I’ve come to the realization that tattoos just aren’t for me, and I promised my dad.

Jewelry, too, doesn’t find its place in my wardrobe. Instead, I opt for silicone bracelets – a guilty pleasure of mine.

Silicone bracelets… you know, the ones with motivational messages on them. 

I’ve been sporting them for as long as I can remember. My very first was the yellow “Live Strong” bracelet endorsed by Lance Armstrong before his fall from grace. It’s curious how swiftly people abandoned wearing his bracelets that aimed at supporting cancer research. I guess we showed him. Really?! I still think the bracelets and Lance were cool. Live Strong. Yes, I will. Good message. Great cause. A lesson in hubris.

The other day, I found myself donning four silicone bracelets simultaneously – a personal record I’m inclined not to repeat as it felt like a wee bit of an excessive display.

The inscriptions on the bracelets read:

  • “Don’t tell them, show them.”
  • “Nothing is Impossible.”
  • “Listen. Learn. Connect.”
  • “E+R=O”

Indeed, quite a collection, like a sleeve of tattoos concealed beneath my shirt, barely noticeable to others.

Though mostly inconspicuous, these bracelets serve as reminder to myself. They embody principles and values I strive to uphold, rather than serving as a means to proclaim my uniqueness or to convert cynics into motivational gurus.

Once, a friend glanced at my bracelets and remarked, “I’m not into that.”

Curiously, I wondered, “Into what?” Did he mistake my bracelets for symbols of membership in a cult? These silicone bracelets are my tattoos.

Perhaps he presumed they were intended for him. It reminded me of Carly Simon’s song “You’re So Vain,” where the lyrics go, “I’ll bet you think this song is about you.” These bracelets are for me.

I don’t have much fashion sense, and I try not to wear brands of companies with bold logos. However, when it comes to messages that are uplifting or push me, well… I embrace them because I’m into positivity. I’m into advertising positivity to myself.

We need to watch what we say to ourselves. Whether we want to admit it or not, we talk to ourselves more than anyone else talks to us. (Hopefully mostly inside our head, but outside is okay sometimes. Sometimes.) We need to be kind to ourselves and choose our words carefully. We shouldn’t even joke about calling ourselves dumb or worthless because every single advertisement adds up and makes an impact. We choose our thoughts about ourselves and we choose our words. It matters. That’s why I wear silicone tattoos. I am advertising to myself. I advertise to myself about the person I want to become. These bracelets reinforce the mindset I need. 

Silicone bracelets are my tattoos.

Bud won every time, and so will I.

Always forward,

Kelly

 

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Greatness is…

Redefining How to Bring Greatness Into Your Life

I love the absolute brilliance of variety and diversity in our world. Every sunset is a unique masterpiece. So many different and colorful birds. Music collections of countless genres and masters in so many differing styles, instruments and vocals. Galleries of enchanting art of differing styles and tastes. Social media content creators sharing their talents of seeming unbelievable abilities. I love them all.  I could write volumes on all the amazing varieties of our world.

(U2 at the Sphere in Las Vegas with my wife, Lori.)

What I call greatness may or may not be appreciated by those around me, and boy do we have the means to overshare about that. Still, what I call greatness matters to me, and it’s worth pursuing and worth sharing.

My thirty-three years in education and many travels have introduced me to so many who sadly believe there is nothing great about them, nor ever will be. A good part of my career and passion as a parent, educator, author and speaker has been to convince otherwise.

I remember teaching one of my daughters to drive and in that very special time being alone in the car and free from the chains of devices, she shared a thought on life, “I just want to be great at something, dad.” She was. She is. I told her.

We all want the experience of greatness. Society’s measurements of greatness are harmful. This toxicity spreads into our homes, workplace, leisure and it spoils the living of life in the sense that things we should be proud and happy about are soured by the awfulness of comparison. Comparison can paralyze and impede.

Greatness is not a template or scale that we stand upon to be measured and weighed. I do not need a publisher to tell me my story is worth reading. I do not need a gallery’s invitation to give my art value and meaning. I do not need a calculation of likes or hearts to make a post worthy of sharing. Greatness is not a number in a record book. No, greatness to me is in fact defined quite differently.

Greatness is…

  • triumph over your greatest challenge.
  • positively impacting the life of another.
  • the courage to share something of which you are deeply proud.
  • the pursuit of a dream or personal improvement.
  • helping others to feel valued.
  • deeply personal.

Find your greatness. It looks different for everyone.

Be kind to yourself as you pursue it and measure your greatness against no one but yourself.

Feeling a bit braver? Offer authentic encouragement and joy to another for their efforts.

Getting your feet on the floor in the morning or taking one small step to toward your greatest challenge may seem personally insignificant, but in reality its greatness is as significant as the Olympian who shaved seconds of their last time.

You have greatness inside of you at this very moment. It’s waiting to be released. At any moment you have the capability to do great things. Immerse yourself in the positivity of this knowledge. In that moment of choice to move forward and advance, something wonderful is happening. Greatness.

It takes to courage to be great. The only way we can find the courage is to say ‘yes’ and take action.

Always forward,

Kelly

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Speaker at the COSSBA Conference in Tampa!

Honored to Speak at The National Conference for the Consortium of State School Boards Associations, Tampa, Florida

It was an honor to speak at The National Conference for the Consortium of State School Boards Associations last weekend in Tampa, Florida.

National Conferences are particularly inspiring because of the opportunity for people across the nation to share, inspire and network solutions to our greatest challenges.

This conference was memorable because I co-presented with my superintendent, Pat Adkins. Our presentation highlighted the great work our district’s staff is doing at Port Clinton Schools. Pat led the presentation and absolutely inspired our audience with the amazing initiatives happening in our district. Our title was “Safe, Healthy and Learning! How Leaders Can Prioritize and Implement Solutions to Improve the Safety and Wellness of Students, Staff and Family as a Crucial Component of On-Going Learning.” Click to Read More

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3 Things You Own That Are Keeping You From What You Want

We own a lot of stuff.

I recently looked at a house for sale, and two thoughts immediately came to my mind, “Wow! These people own a lot of stuff. If we were to buy this house, how would they ever pack it all up?” The second was, “My family sure owns a lot of stuff, how would we ever pack it all up?”

Among all of the physical trinkets, items, and perhaps even necessities in our life, there are other ‘things’ we own that we are not even aware of that have a negative impact. They aren’t packed in a box or sitting on a shelf. We carry them with us everywhere we go.  Becoming aware of the ownership of these things and taking small steps to remove them will go a long way in our own personal success and happiness, as well as the happiness and success of all the people around us.

There are three things that you own that are keeping you from everything that you want.

That’s a pretty bold statement, but it’s true, and one of them is a goat. Yep, a goat.

I’m as guilty as the next person. Owning these three things have prevented me from the relationships I want, the opportunities I want, and even the things I want in life.

Here are the three things you own that are keeping you from what you want, and what you can do about it: Click to Read More

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Books I Read in 2022 and Some Thoughts on Reading

I find great enjoyment and personal growth in reading every day. I am not a fast reader. I tend to take my time with my books, and I really try to apply what I am learning.

I am including a list of the books I read in 2022 in this post, but first some thoughts on reading:

Reflecting on my reading for last year I have three takeaways:

  1. First, I would like to read more fiction. I think we all need a story in our head. We need a diversion from the seriousness and busyness of life. We need to see there are problems bigger than what we are facing. We need to be inspired. I only read one piece of fiction last year. I will do better.
  2. Next, reading a lot is NOT the goal. I am not trying to read for mileage, but for enjoyment and to learn. If I can read more, wonderful! It’s not a competition. One book can change a life. I want to read those books. I want to write those books.
  3. Finally, I resolve to mix up and diversify my reading for this year. I read too much in the same categories, same authors, and my reading is pretty predictable. I did a little better on this last year, but I hope to discover some gems outside my wheelhouse of reading.

Five things I read reach day: Click to Read More

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Sharing My Goals for 2023

I've Never Shared My Goals Before. Trying to Hold Myself Accountable and Encourage Others

Goals can be a very private endeavor and perhaps they should be. There are TED Talks and Stoic Philosophy to support why you should NOT share what your are working toward. There is also some research to suggest maybe you should as it helps you accomplish your goals. I know several writers that I admire who share their goals, and I find it inspiring. Regardless of which is truly right and best, I have decided to share my goals this year.

As the first month of the year comes to a close, and I’ve shared ideas and tools to help you design a better year, I thought perhaps I would share some of my goals and the thoughts behind them to help hold myself more accountable, and I hope one or two may inspire others to get outside their comfort zone, set some of their own, and make some progress.

Typically the majority of goals around the world and over time fall into three primary categories: health, finances, and relationships.

I typically make a long list of my hopes and dreams for the new year. I also have five categories that I focus on with my goals setting which are: physical, financial, family, professional and business. From all of these I also pick the top three overall goals as my primary focus.

I keep everything organized in my journal.

Again, this is my first time sharing online ever! It may be my last too.

My top three goals for 2023 are: Click to Read More