Amazing Video: Makes Me Want to be a Better Person! (A Better Father.)

I ran across this video the other day and it made the hair on the back of my neck stand up, and my eyes water.  After watching only a few minutes I found myself wanting to give more of myself, accomplish more, make a greater impact, and of course, be a better father.  This video is beyond inspirational. It will change your view on life.  Please watch it and share it.

Make your day great!

~ Kelly

Kelly is an inspirational speaker, author, and artist. Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825

Kelly Croy is a chalk artist and professional speaker. His presentations have entertained and amazed audiences across the nation including corporations, schools, churches, conferences, and numerous other venues where people come together to be entertained and improve their lives.  Please consider booking Kelly for your next event.

Love, Loyalty, Friendship & The Irish Claddagh

“With my two hands I give you my heart, and crown it with my love.”

One of the first gifts I gave my wife, Lorrain Croy, was an Irish Claddagh Ring.  She appreciated the gift, and its story has served as the foundation for our marriage.

We dated for six years before getting married, and I just recently calculated I have now known my wife longer than I haven’t known her.  The years have certainly gone by quickly, especially now with our four children.  Fourteen years doesn’t seem like an incredible milestone in itself, but considering the average marriage in the United States only lasts eight years and approximately fifty percent of all marriages fail, I guess we are doing well.  I don’t know the reasons behind those figures, however, I do know some couples go into their marriage with a Plan B.  The Plan B resembles something like, “if things get too tough, or don’t work out, we’ll just quit and start over.” Lori and I did not go into our marriage with a Plan B, but if we had, it would more closely resemble a duel: ten paces, turn fire, winner take all.  I’m joking of course. Please don’t enter into a relationship with a Plan B.

The Claddagh ring is a gold ring with a crown, and two hands holding a heart. I gave it to her when we were dating, and I wear a Claddagh as my wedding band.  The crown represents Loyalty, the heart  represents Love, and the hands represents Friendship; the three greatest qualities for a lasting marriage. My cousin Michael retold me the Irish legend behind the Claddagh as we visited with him on our honeymoon in Ireland:

A king near Galway Ireland had found the love of his life. He wanted to profess his love for her in a unique and powerful way.  He summoned his wisest advisors and counselors and asked them what were the most important qualities for a long lasting marriage.  He thought if he could learn this, then he would be with his wife for his entire life.  After much thought and consideration, the king’s counselors returned with their answer: love, loyalty, and friendship were the three most important qualities to a marriage.

Without hesitation, the king summoned his most favored artisan and jeweler and asked that a golden ring be designed at once to represent these qualities.  The jeweler created the first Claddagh ring and presented it to the king.  He proposed and married his love at once.  His wedding band served as a reminder to him for what he should strive for in his marriage.  The design of the ring became popular and the ring of choice for all couples in his kingdon and eventually all of Ireland.

Lori is my best friend, and I love her with all my heart. While our marriage is not without disagreements and passionate discussions, we truly live by the qualities represented in the Claddagh and work with each other to always give our best to each other and our four children.

I am thankful to all of the wonderful marriages that have served as positive role models to me from my family to my friends. I continue to learn about being a better husband by observing some phenomenal couples working together through tough times.

I once heard someone say, “To have a great marriage you first must find the right person, and then be the right person.”  My Claddagh helps me to work at being the right person; I know I have already found the right one.

~ Kelly

Kelly is an inspirational speaker, author, and artist.

Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825

Kelly Croy is a chalk artist and professional speaker. His presentations have entertained and amazed audiences across the nation including corporations, schools, churches, conferences, and numerous other venues where people come together to be entertained and improve their lives.  Please consider booking Kelly for your next event.

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Find Your Kryptonite!

kryptoniteOur culture and history have provided us with some amazing heroes whose lessons serve to entertain, inspire, teach, and empower. Greek Mythology, the Bible, and even modern comics tell similar tales of heroes whose fate is determined by a single weakness.

The Greek hero Achilles was dipped into the fiery waters of the River Styx to make his skin impervious to any weapon in preparation for the Trojan War. His mother, a goddess, held onto his ankles while immersing him, and as a result his skin was untouched and unprotected where he was held. His enemies learned of his single weakness and volleys of arrows were launched at his ankles. Achilles was killed. Today we call a single point of vulnerability our Achilles Heel.

The Biblical story of Samson’s strength is chronicled  in the Book of Judges. Samson was able to wrestle a lion, destroy an entire army with the jawbone of an ass, and he even destroyed a temple of colossal size and structure. Samson too had but one weakness, his hair. Samson’s girlfriend, Delilah, was bribed to uncover this weakness. After learning of it, she cut off his hair.  He was weakened, blinded, and imprisoned.

Superman, arguably one of the best known heroes in modern culture, could fly, possessed enormous strength, had x-ray vision, shot heat-beams from his eyes, and bullets literally bounced off his skin. Superman, however, also had one weakness; kryptonite, a chunk of his home planet.  When Superman came near the substance he would drop to his knees and become helpless.

Perhaps you are like me and your weakness is more likely procrastination than a meteorite from an alien world, a third piece of apple pie than an enemy’s arrow, or an over-reaction than a monumental loss of strength from a bad haircut. Still, it is to our advantage and surely our responsibility to know what our weaknesses are and to guard against them.

We simply must take inventory of our weaknesses if we are to improve ourselves.  Sadly, there are many that find little or no fault with their lives, and are one day suddenly blindsided. They are content by comparing themselves with only those who have worse faults. You can exercise for hours each day, but  you won’t see results until you overcome your desire to eat an entire chocolate cake for breakfast every morning. With self improvement comes self discipline, and another great benefit is, as we focus on improvement in one area, we gradually improve in several.

So, do you know your weakness? If not, how can you and your loved ones protect you from them? Each year I undergo a complete physical to protect myself from illness.  I do it as much for my family as I do for myself.  Shouldn’t we do the same for all of the important areas in our lives?  Stand guard to attacks on your physical self, emotional self, financial self, spiritual self, and any area of your life that is important to you by simply identifying a danger.

We have seen so many fall from grace in Hollywood and in politics.  We wonder how people can make such blunders, but realize they are caught up in their own self worth and success.  They think they are unstoppable. They become arrogant.  They are careless. The Greeks called this Hubris.

We may not be heroes of paramount proportion, but we do have people counting on us and responsibilities to maintain. We must know our faults and weaknesses and work at improving upon them.  We must hold ourselves accountable, share with a trusted accountability partner, and keep ourselves from those very temptations.

A steel worker knows his greatest vulnerability is a fall from a great height.  He protects himself with a cable and harness, and works closely with coworkers to keep safety a top priority.  During my eighteen years as a football coach we watched countless hours of film to not only learn of our opponents weaknesses, but our own. It is time to for you to take similar actions and reflection.

Let’s take a quick inventory of some possible dangers that might be affecting key areas of your life just to get you started in the process: Are there actions you take at work that could endanger your job? Are there activities in your life keeping you away from loved ones? Do you indulge in certain foods or drinks that are hurting you physically? Is there an attack on your emotions that you need to confront?  Are there people you need to avoid? Substances that bring out the worst in you?  Are there places you visit that make you a less than ideal individual? Do you have an accountability partner that you can trust and bounce ideas off to help you improve? You get the idea. Maybe these could be added to your journal or discussed in private. Regardless, they make a great starting point.

Once you discover your vulnerabilities you will immediately start developing a plan of protection and escape.  It is human nature.

Fear not!  Your friends and family are the ones who bring out the best in you, and they’ll be there when you falter, as you will for them.  The greater the problem, the greater the hero, so if your weakness is great, then so will you be by overcoming it.

Make Your Day Great, Find your Kryptonite!

~ Kelly

Kelly is an inspirational speaker, author, and artist. Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825

Kelly Croy is a chalk artist and professional speaker. His presentations have entertained and amazed audiences across the nation including corporations, schools, churches, conferences, and numerous other venues where people come together to be entertained and improve their lives.  Please consider booking Kelly for your next event.

Make Your Day Great: Six Easy Steps for Making the Most of Today

Picture 4A few years ago I started ending much of my correspondence with the closing,  ‘Make Your Day Great’ and it has become somewhat of a  motto.  While most people say, “Have a great day,” I place the responsibility onto the person I’m writing. Having a great day and making a day great are not the same.

When someone tells me to have a great day, I think, “Sure, that would be nice,” and I wait for something to happen.  I’ve even heard people reply to this with, “Yeah, right!” They just don’t see themselves winning the lucky, great-day lottery.

Telling someone to make their day great offers them a challenge and a choice. Sure, we might happen upon a great day.  Things like that do happen, but then again we might also stumble  upon a crappy day just as likely.  Being challenged to make the day great offers a choice.

So how do we do it?  How do we go about making our day great?

First of all, get the right attitude.  Slap a silly smile on your mug, and believe that you can make your day great, because, yep, you guessed it, you really can.  You are in control.  You cannot control what happens. (I totally agree with this!) But you can control how you react to it.  If your four-year-old pours milk on the shirt you just ironed you can freak out or laugh.  (We’d certainly laugh if it happened to someone else.) It’s a choice.  You can choose a first-rate attitude and domino that into a great day, or a second-rate attitude (or worse) and spiral down to a bad day. Heck, laughing about what happened and retelling the story with a great attitude will make you the hit of the office.  It will impact everyone.

Second, make a plan.  Ask yourself what it would really take to have a great day.  Would you like to exercise? Complete some chores? Talk with someone you miss? Spend time with a family member?  Write it down and build it into your day, that way it actually happens.  Journals and index cards are awesome places to plan your day. Plan your day or someone else will.  And while you’re at it, plan some fun into your day.

Third, keep it simple.  Our best days in life are usually very simple ones.  Spending time either doing things that make us feel a sense of accomplishment or enjoyment rank high, but more importantly it’s who we spend our day with that matters the most. Don’t over do it. Do things that make you feel good in the short and long term.  For instance, exercise and lots of water makes me feel good immediately and over time.  A candy bar makes me feel instantly good, but bad later.  Do the former, lose the latter. Finding some private time to write, to pray, to listen to some of my favorite tunes revitalizes my outlook on the day.

Next, assume the best of others.  Avoid gossip and speculation.  Assume that others always mean well.  If someone crosses you or is rude, assume it was accidental and move on.  Don’t make it personal.  Besides, and this is a hard one for me, you can’t control what others think or say.  You really can’t.  Since you can’t, don’t let it bum you out.  Give your best and move forward.  Stay positive.

Furthermore, compare your day with others, but be careful. To have a great day you have to do great things.  Without becoming envious or jealous, whose day do you admire?  Being careful, use them as a model.  On the other hand, if you think you are having a bad day you might consider comparing yourself to those less fortunate.  (Having trouble? Pick up a newspaper.  If you don’t see them on the front page, flip to the obituaries.)

Last, start your day with gratitude and fill it with service. Openly give thanks for all that you have.  Make time in your day to serve others. See someone having a bad day? Flash them a smile and do something unexpectedly nice.  These actions alone will truly make your day a great one.

I have recently received emails from some friends letting me know that they too are now using the closing Make Your Day Great, and I give them my complete approval, just as long as they live it. Once you do it, it becomes contagious.

Make Your Day Great!

~ Kelly

Kelly is an inspirational speaker, author, and artist. Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825

Kelly Croy is a chalk artist and professional speaker. His presentations have entertained and amazed audiences across the nation including corporations, schools, churches, conferences, and numerous other venues where people come together to be entertained and improve their lives.  Please consider booking Kelly for your next event.

Things!

Picture 1Things. We really have become a culture of obtaining things. Looking around my home as I write this message I try to evaluate the worth of the things I have collected in my home. Which ones are more important than the others? Is there a hierarchy to their worth? Which ones are my favorites? What could be sold on eBay? There are some things I wish I didn’t have. How did they get here and why do I still keep them? My home is filled with a lot of things, yet I seem to always want more. The television tells me I need this new thing because it’s faster than my old one, or this other thing will somehow make my life easier. My newspaper is filled with pictures of things that it says “I must have”. The mail is delivered to me with advertisements for more and more deals on things. Oh, so many things!

The fires raging out in California have forced the evacuation of many families. My thoughts and prayers go to those displaced people. As the reporters interview them we see the sadness for the homes they lost. They do not cry beacuse of the things they lost, but rather for the loss of their security, memories, and a brush with danger. They will be able to replace many of the things they lost, but photo albums, and family heirlooms are irreplaceable. This sudden tragedy in their lives does force a new look on how we prioritize our life. When we slow down, whether by choice or force, we know life is not about the things, but our interactions with people.

If, God forbid, a burglar would ever enter my home, he may be interested in my computer, televisions, and other electronic equipment that might fetch him some cash, but he would be miss one of my family’s greatest things, our dining table.

Our dining table is not expensive or fancy in any extravagant way. It is not a family heirloom or a handcrafted wonder from remote area of the country. It is a simple dining room table, but it is our greatest thing. It could be replaced with another and we might not even notice because the value is not in the table itself but what takes place at it.

Our family gathers around that table for meals, meetings, prayer, and even some labored homework sessions. My wife makes it a point for each of our daughters to share during dinner a significant part of their day, a current goal they are seeking, and news of their friends. It is where we plan out our vacations, solve our problems, rejoice in our accomplishments, and comfort one another in sad times. I hope you have a table like this and use it with your family. I fear so many simply do not.

Our precious table, like all of the things in our lives, should be seen as what they truly are, a replaceable tool to nurture some incredible interactions with those we love. If we are not using our things for that purpose, then perhaps our things are using us.

May your homes be filled with much happiness and love.

~ Kelly

Kelly is an inspirational speaker  and artist. Please visit his website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825

Kelly Croy is a chalk artist and professional speaker. His presentations have entertained and amazed audiences across the nation including corporations, schools, churches, conferences, and numerous other venues where people come together to be entertained and improve their lives.  Please consider booking Kelly for your next event.

Time Management and The Egg Timer.

egg_timerI’m always looking for ways to better manage my time, and it seems the more simple the method the more likely I’ll use it.  One of the simplest and most effective methods I use for managing my time is $1.29 egg timer.

I recently posted an article about ‘going dark’ and how I would lose track of time while on my iPhone or laptop.  I had attempted to use a built in timer on both devices, and even downloaded another electronic timer that would pop up on my screen.  One or two clicks later and I was right back on.  I found I needed something that wasn’t electronic, so I went to the dollar store and purchased an egg timer for $1.29.  (Shouldn’t it have been a dollar at the dollar store?)

The egg timer is a clunky device that winds, ticks, and rings.  While it is not the best device for all tasks (e.g. writing, reading, brain surgery) it is great for ten minute projects.  Set the timer and get to work. The ticking keeps you focused and the annoying ring startles you to move on to the next task.

My wife thought I was a little off my rocker (and I am, I truly am) when I started using the timer, but she soon saw my results.  She uses it with our children. (I know…I admit I am just a big kid too.)  Awhile back our daughters were taking super-duper long showers.  While we encourage cleanliness, we also encourage ecological awareness and lower water bills.   Voila!  The egg timer. They weren’t thrilled at first, but it worked. 

Some of my favorite egg timer activities include: internet searches, race the clock with house hold chores like the dishes or folding laundry, ten-minute breaks from writing, checking email, making my to-do list, paying bills, and social network updates.

• Take a break.  The egg timer is a great way to keep your break from going a little long.  

• Beat the clock. There are many chores that just aren’t fun but necessary.  Race your timer and increase your productivity.  (This really works great with laundry.)

• Take a bite out of a BIG job.  There are often projects that just appear too overwhelming.  Set the timer and get started.  Yes, I know you won’t finish, but you will feel better you started, something will have gotten done, and the job will not seem nearly as overwhelming.

• Set Deadlines.  There are some projects that you can just spend too much time on.  I can be a perfectionist with my correspondence.  When I write a letter I alway want it to read like Shakespeare and quite often that is over doing it.  The egg timer is great for deadlines. 

Does it have to be an egg timer?  No, you can use the timer on your stove, microwave, or watch, but for some reason that inexpensive egg timer marvel beats them all hands down. Try it and see if you agree.

Do you have any new uses for the egg timer and time management?  I would love to read them.  Please comment on this blog and let me know. 

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Kelly is an inspirational speaker, author, and artist. Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825    

Kelly Croy is a chalk artist and professional speaker. His presentations have entertained and amazed audiences across the nation including corporations, schools, churches, conferences, and numerous other venues where people come together to be entertained and improve their lives.  Please consider booking Kelly for your next event.

Going Dark

off-switch-lg-gt_full_width_landscapeI have recently been introduced to the urban slang ‘going dark’ and have applied it to my life. ‘Going dark’ has three meanings. The first comes from the world of espionage, where an agent does not speak or communicate for a given time to protect himself from possible danger. The second, applies to the general populace when they purposefully turn off their cell phones, computers, and other social networking devices for a period of time. Finally, going dark also has an environmental meaning whereby consumers turn off electrically powered devices for a period of time to conserve energy and make a positive impact on the environment.

I am very much ‘plugged-in’ having an iPhone, laptop, and many social networking sites. I use technology with my family, which is spread throughout the United States, to share family photos and updates. Technology assists me in sharing my art and message with the world by maintaining a website, blog, and other social networking sites and sending out newsletters like this one. As you have seen in my art presentations, I also use technology to bring my art ‘to life’ and to enhance my performances. My laptop is an alternative art canvas where I create customized animations, cartoons, caricatures and other artwork, and it is also the keeper of my schedule, and where I write. Yes, I am plugged-in. I’m sure I check my email, texts, Facebook, and Twitter pages a little too often.

Now, knowing all of this, you can very well see why the idea of “going dark” is appealing and beneficial to me, and I think quite possibly to you as well. When I am connected electronically I am at those times disconnected with other areas of my life. The internet has this “super market time loss” effect on me. Sometimes when I go shopping for a few groceries I get sidetracked and unknowingly walk out an hour later with items I don’t need, and a loss of time I regret. The same is true when I’m online; I lose time. (Perhaps some of you know someone like that. Perhaps it is you.) It is better for me to go into the market with a list and an eye on my watch then go in blindly. The same is true for my online time. I monitor it much more carefully now. I also set predetermined times to “go dark” and completely abandon online activity. These dark periods are gifts. Some times that I choose are special times like family dinner, my girls sporting activities, and dates with my wife, while others include work related activities like writing. Without ‘going dark” some of my projects would not be finished on time. Just because we can be reached 24/7 does not necessarily mean we should.

I realize ‘going dark’ is just an exercise in discipline, and I accept that, but it works. I encourage you to discuss periods of ‘going dark’ with your spouse, children, and coworkers to enhance the personal social interaction that is at times lacking. Set up some guidelines for yourself to keep you safe, and productive and more importantly, personally connected. Some corporate offices have recently implemented ‘no email’ days and ‘no texting’ zones in their buildings to increase productivity. There is now even software available for downloading that will disable your computer to get online for set periods to allow you opportunities to focus on offline activities. The entire world attempted to ‘go dark’ on March 28 for Earth Hour to increase environmental awareness. Millions went unplugged simultaneously in 88 countries for a single hour.

The Season of Lent this year has been an exercise in ‘going dark’. I have greatly disciplined my online presence and used that time to mediate in prayer, scripture, and reflection to grow closer with God and with my family. My work has not suffered, in fact the added discipline has brought forth a renewed sense of focus and energy. I have benefited greatly from this practice.

In short, the social networking technologies of our modern age are wonderful tools to allow us to reconnect with family members and friends, and the entire world, but used poorly, however, and they will damage or destroy our most important relationships and steal from us the precious and irreplaceable gift of time. May your homes be filled with much laughter and happiness this month as you consider the possibilities and rewards of going dark.

Kelly is an inspirational speaker and performance chalk artist. Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825

One of the Best Inspirational Stories!

A good friend of mine, Frank Shelton, shared this video with me.  I had heard parts of the story before, but this was the first time I had seen all of the wonderful shots this incredible and special basketball player made.  Remarkable! Amazing! Inspiring!

Kelly is an inspirational speaker, author, and artist. Please visit our website to book Kelly for your next event. www.kellycroy.com info@kellycroy.com 1-800-831-4825