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Goals Still Matter

People Spend 100x More Time on Social Media Than They Do on Planning Their Life

I rang in the 2023 New Year with my family watching a football game and the ball drop in NYC simultaneously on television. Our celebration plans had been impacted by a rogue flu bug that had made its way into our home. Still, we started the new year with some laughter, reflection and as always, hope for a brighter new year.

I’m a goal junkie. I love resolutions, goal-setting, journals and really anything that I believe helps people to design and plan for a more dynamic life. I think others do too, but some catch that wave of cynicism and say, “Why bother,” while inside their minds and hearts I doubt any are hoping and planning for the new year to be worse. C’mon.

I spent the holiday break reflecting on the previous year and making plans for the new year. It was fun. I enjoyed thinking and planning how I am going to write and illustrate a new children’s book, get in a little better shape, and spend more time with those I love. I’m the father of four daughters… we have a lot of plans for the year!

I believe goals still matter. I get frustrated when I see posts and social media shares that belittle resolutions. Why cast a shadow on someone who wants to get better?

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October is National Bullying Awareness Month

Free Guide: What to Do With your Life when a Bully Steps into it

October is Bullying Awareness Month. This is a great time for schools to organize events and programs to help educate students, families and staff about bullying.

I have created a free resource you can download titled, What Everyone Needs to Know About Bullying. I hope you will share it with everyone you can. I believe it delivers a message that many need to hear and practice.

I will be updating this this free ebook very during the month of October. I also hope to release an audio version of it on my Wired Educator Podcast so you can listen to it while you drive, workout, walk the dog, or whatever. I really want this message to spread to help as many lives as possible.

The bottom line is this: The opposite of bullying is leadership.

We need to teach and train students to be better leaders online and off. It’s that simple. Everyone talks about the importance of leadership, but few, very few, take the time to teach it.

I will be sharing my What Everyone Needs to Know About Bullying with schools and parent groups throughout the school year. I would love to share it with you!

If you are a parent, read this ebook with your child. If you are a teacher, make copies and share it with your students. If you are and administrator, share it with your staff. Have conversations about the material.

Kelly

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Sharing My Children’s Book at Right To Read Week at Bataan Memorial School

Ten Social Emotional Tips for Parents and Children

Last week was Right to Read Week at Bataan Memorial Intermediate School, and I had the honor and privilege of being invited to share my children’s book, Unthink Before Bed: A Children’s Book on Mindfulness.

First of all, the students were absolutely amazing! Over 300 students gathered in the cafeteria for my presentation which included my start as a reader, writer and illustrator, then transitioned into a read aloud of my book, then a live speed drawing of characters from the book set to music, and ended with a question and answer with me any my co-author, Jedi. Jedi is my dog and a character in the book. Everyone was so well behaved and mannerly. Each listened actively as I read the book aloud to them and shared images of the pages on the computer screen. They loved the speed drawing. The question and answer was a lot of fun, but Jedi stole the show when he came out at the end. Every student petted him as they left. Again, these kids were so polite and well mannered. What a great audience. I love Bataan School.

Contact me if you’d like Jedi and I to visit your school.

The Presentation included:

  • My love of reading, writing and drawing.
  • The most influential books in my childhood.
  • How I made the book.
  • A read aloud of Unthink Before Bed.
  • A speed drawing I created to music using my iPad projected on the screen set to music. (Kids loved it!)
  • Question and Answer time.
  • Everyone met my dog, Jedi, a character in the book.
  • Everyone pet the dog as they left. (Almost everyone.)

I encouraged the students to use devices to create not just to consume. I also shared a highlight from the book that devices have bedtimes! Devices are great, but they are often only used for consumption and limits are not placed on them. I like to show people what they can really do with a device creatively.

Unthink Before Bed teaches some great Social Emotional lessons. Imagine reading a book to your child that is fun and entertaining, AND helps them learn great coping skills they will need the rest of their life.

There were ten social emotional lessons in the book that I reviewed with students to help them cope with anxiety and stress: 

  • Create a routine.
  • Put on pajamas.
  • Devices have bedtimes.
  • Store devices in another room.
  • Practice long, slow breathing with eyes closed.
  • Picture your surroundings and your body.
  • Use all of your senses to picture nature.
  • Think ‘just one thing; and the eventually ‘nothing.’
  • Give thanks.
  • Know you are loved and that tomorrow will be great.

I think Unthink Before Bed is a great book and hope you do too. You can order your copy here.

~Kelly

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Get Out of Here!

Every time we leave town our problems shrink because our perspective grows. 

I had the pleasure this past week to leave town and visit family.

While I enjoyed: hanging out with relatives, good food, and exchanging fun stories, another blessing crossed my mind; it is a wonderful gift to change your location, routine and perspective.

The nine hours in the car wasn’t easy, but my wife and I really got to spend some time with one another. Physical discomfort of sitting for so long aside, there is a genuine importance to switching up your routine and literally getting away from the perspective from which you see the world the majority of the time.

As hard as I try to bring variety and a fresh perspective to my work and my family life, I fall into a routine. I see the same things. I do the same things. I talk about the same things. Most significantly, I observed, my approach to life becomes a bit routine.

Just being on the road allowed me to count my blessings and change my perspective as we encountered people who were: homeless, in distress, in trouble, sour to the world, and challenged in many unique ways. Our family has our own challenges too, but what we saw was a reality of life that we are typically spared from during our work and school week routines. We don’t encounter these harsher realities, or when we do it’s on the news and a bit distant. (Don’t even get me started on how our social media consumption literally and figuratively filters the world into a false ‘magical place of beauty and perfection.’)

We all need a change in perspective a little more frequently.

My biggest takeaway: The problems I thought were problems are not really problems.

I had more fun than I deserved with some amazing family, but I am also thankful for the needed change in perspective our travels highlighted.

Routines begin to narrow our focus ever so gradually until we have a pretty fixed mindset.

Every time we leave town our problems shrink because our perspective grows.

I challenge organizations to encourage visits to conferences and other organizations, even ones outside of their line of work, and to bring outsiders with powerful stories and uniques perspective into your organization. We need to share ideas and takeaways. We must consistently work to expand our perspective.

~Kelly

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The Six Obstacles to Innovation

Innovation is quite simply “finding better ways to do things.” Too often innovation is lumped in with technology.  It’s not devices that make something innovative, it’s ideas, methods, and systems. Hardware and software sometimes aid innovation, but not always.

In the end, innovation is about improvement, something you’d think everyone would rally around, but sadly that is not the case.

A lot of leaders and organizations say they want innovation, but do they? Most wait until they see others doing something innovative and then try to catch up. That’s not innovation.

Here are the six obstacles to innovation: 

  • Arrogance: People are too confident in the current way they are doing things.
  • Identity: People see themselves one dimensionally and are unwilling to grow or change, or they see themself as part of a group or time period of a particular method.
  • Lack of Curiosity and Unwillingness to Learn: People are not curious about new methods and avoid learning and applying new ways.
  • Fear of Loss of Control: People have too strong of a desire to be in control and are not willing to accept a period of time of not being the expert or in control. True innovation needs an environment where its okay for everything to not be worked out and ideas can be adjusted and adapted.
  • Lack of Empathy: People are unable to see other people’s needs for innovation and sadly focus on only their own need for continuity and order. People fail to see how a new idea or method would help others and rather focus on how this would be hard for them.
  • Competing Priorities: Most often innovative ideas get reshuffled to competing priorities due to interest, training, time, investment, or a lack of understanding. One person’s idea in a group is given more weight and value than a new, innovative idea. Many organizations will spend money in certain known and proven areas and avoid investing in new, unknown areas, only to spend more later trying to catch up with those that went first. Most organizations and individuals just don’t want to take the time to do things a different way. It takes time to change. It takes leadership.

The obstacles outlined above illustrate why the icons of innovation throughout history were all viewed as mavericks and rebels. They had to be. Steve Jobs, Nikola Tesla, Elon Musk, and others all broke away from the bureaucracy of how things are typically accomplished within organizations because they realized if they did not their innovative ideas would perish.

In my book, Along Came a Leader, I share six tenets of leadership. Vision is one of the six. I feel leaders need a strong vision.  The ability to see what could be is so important to leadership and acting on it allows innovation to take place.

If you are a leader of an organization or an inspiring leader, take note and avoid the six obstacles to innovation so your organization can advance and lead.

~Kelly

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Changing Our “I Don’t Need Coaching” Mindset

The Best Have Coaches!

Today I watched the greatest quarterback in the history of football.

I didn’t root for him, but I did watch in admiration as he accomplished incredible feats with what looked liked effortless precision and flow. He was accurate and smooth. Again, I’m not a fan, but wow!

What I think is most interesting is that despite being the best in his field and of all time, he has multiple coaches. He has coaches! He is the best, and yet he has a string of coaches that work with him every day.

The only thing more fascinating than the fact that he has coaches is his eagerness to be coached. He wants to get better. He goes out and hires his own private coaches too. Again, wow!

We live in an age where feedback is considered insulting and the thought of having a coach in our profession would more than likely viewed as intrusive or embarrassing.

Why?

I think there are certain areas in our lives where we view coaching as elite, as in the case of a fitness coach or nutritionist, and other areas where a negative connotation of coaching thrives as in our professions and perhaps mental wellness.

I think we are getting better with the concept of coaching though. I hope so.

What’s the alternative if we do NOT bring coaches into our personal and professional lives? We decline. We stay the same. We apply personal improvement.

I don’t think any of us want to decline; that’s not acceptable. Staying the same is dangerous, but I fear popular as many people think they are good enough, but I think we can all agree life is about improving and becoming our best for ourselves and others.

Personal improvement is wonderful and should absolutely be pursued daily, but there are limitations to what we can learn through books, courses, podcasts, blogs and videos. These wonderful resources cannot provide feedback and offer the awareness and personalized instruction we need.

Our challenge: How can we encourage a mindset and an environment where we are eager to be coached?

We will not accidentally bump into our best self; we will discover it through choice, not chance, and acquire it through personal and professional coaching.

~Kelly

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The Worst Resolution You Can Make

Why You Shouldn't Set an EVERY DAY goal.

I have been keeping a journal and setting goals for well over twenty years. I have learned a lot about goal setting and accomplishing resolutions. I have discovered some really good methods and strategies for accomplishing goals, and I have also learned some things that will almost surely set you up for failure.

One of the worst resolutions you can make, I have discovered, is the “every-day” resolution. You know, when you commit that you are going to do something EVERY single day. I have tried this so many times and failed. I know very few people who have accomplished an EVERY day goal. The ones that have are certainly proud, but I question whether it was truly worth it or not.

EVERY day goals can create a lot of stress and pressure, but more importantly they can spoil the process of building good habits and ruin your chances for progress. Why? Well, once you miss, and it is likely you will, the miss will derail the entire goal and you will quit all together in frustration.

Quite often the negative feeling of missing, especially after a streak of awesome success, is so powerful it feels like a massive failure and people surrender. Rather than celebrating the 99 days of 100 we ate well, or ran, or wrote, or did some other amazing streak of awesomeness, we focus our attention on the ONE day we miss. The small miss or error looks bigger than the streak. Weird isn’t it?

I would be great if we could be consistent enough to succeed perfectly in doing the right thing EVERY day, but psychologically and more importantly for better results and mental wellness we should strive for ‘most’ or not missing two in a row, or building in a break or cheat day. By doing this, you will stay on track and get results.

So, by all means make resolutions and set goals, just don’t strive for daily perfection and end up derailing the improvement in your life you seek. Give yourself the grace to make adjustments and stay on track.

Here are seven things you should do instead:

  • Set Goals.
  • Don’t strive for Daily Perfection.
  • Build in a Cheat Day or Off Day.
  • Don’t miss two days in a row.
  • Try to make the majority of days in a week, not all of them.
  • Track your progress on a calendar, journal of spreadsheet.
  • Stay positive and make it fun.

~Kelly

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Newsletter: Our Family Christmas Card, 4 Productivity Hacks, Bad Attitudes & Flat Tires, 3 Best Christmas Songs, Helping the Homeless at Christmas

My Newsletter for December 24, 2021

Four Awesome Ideas to Level-Up and Design a Better Life!

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays Everyone,

It’s Christmas Eve, and there are eight days until the new year of 2022. I am already plotting and planning my goals and projects for the upcoming year. Are you?

It’s 54 degrees here in Ohio. That’s just weird for us. Yesterday I saw someone mowing! That’s nuts.

I hope you an your family are blessed with peace & prosperity, love & laughter, and health & happiness over the holidays and into the new year.

Here are four ideas for you to knock around:

  1. A quote I am reflecting on: “A bad attitude is like a flat tire. If you don’t change it you’re not going anywhere.” Anonymous. I am enjoying this quote as I research and write my next children’s book, An Awesome Attitude. Everthing about this book on attitude is a work in progress. The writing of the stanzas, the sketches, heck even the title are all in their infacy. I believe having an awesome attidude is the single greatest quality to living a good life, leading, being happy and finding success.
  2. My 3 favorite Christmas songs: These are the songs that say Christmas to me!
    1. O’ Come All Ye Faithful by Elvis
    2. The Little Drummer Boy by the Bird and the Bee (Featuring Dave Grohl) You gotta hear this one!
    3. Do They Know It’s Christmas by BandAid
  3. I spoke at the Cherry Street Mission Last Night: What an amazing gift this Christmas. I was honored and humbled to speak and share my art at The Cherry Street Mission in Toledo on the eve of Christmas Eve. I met so many wonderful people who are facing serious challenges but remain upbeat, positive and kind. So many people are in a rough transition in life, but I am grateful they have access to this amazing organization and the services they provide. Cherry Street Mission helps in so many ways. They provide shelter, food, care, services, and education of skills to transition back to work the force. What an Amazing place! My heart has been so deeply touched. I’m blessed To have brought some laughter and fun to their evening and life. I joined them for dinner and learned so much. Brilliant and beautiful people. What a great Christmas memory! Consider donating some time or money to the Cherry Street mission. Keep them in your thoughts and prayers and all the people who use their services. Shout out to Kurtis Tallman Vice President of Operations who remembered my presentation from when he was a young man and invited me out. Learn more on how to help here: One day I hope to speak at your organization and meet you! Maybe in 2022.
  4. A Head Start on Your Goals for 2022:
    1. I am joining Jon Gordon, author of The Energy Bus, for his free
    2. I use the app Things for a daily to-do list and GoodNotes on all my devices for daily, mobile productivity.
    3. I use this : daily to plan and accomplish epic stuff for the year. I get a new one every year!
    4. A couple of days before the new year I have a planning session for what I want to focus on and accomplish for the year. I break it into months, weeks, and eventually even days. It track progress in my journal and a Google Sheet and review these regulary. The planning of the year is exciting and fun! I hope some of these ideas inspire you.

PS: Merry Christmas!

Bonus: to see me drawing a Santa illustration every day. They are cool speed painting videos your family will enjoy. Follow kcroy on

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