Six Things I Believe Children Need to Hear More Often

Children hear a lot of things during the course of a day. Each and every word makes a lasting impact. Parents, teachers, coaches, advisors, and mentors must choose their words carefully. We aren’t always going to have the right words at the right time, but we always need to try. Here are six things I think children need to hear more often:

1) Yes! We want to keep children safe and prevent them from becoming unruly and spoiled. The word “No” is often set as default. I think children need to hear ‘Yes’ more often. You don’t have to give in to every request, just quantify when they can do something. “Dad, can I go to a friend’s house?” Try, “Yes, but not today. When your room is clean ask me again for another day.”

2) I Make Mistakes Too! Children need to know that everyone makes mistakes, and that failing is the pathway to success. We want students to accept and demonstrate responsibility, show leadership, and try new things. When we as adults use the wrong words we need to let children know we made a mistake for that too.

3) You Can Accomplish Anything! I use to think everyone heard this from their parents. By the end of my first year of teaching, now twenty, I knew this isn’t true. This really was a great gift my parents gave me. I placed no limitations on my future. I dreamt big, and went after and achieved goals that really should have been unobtainable. Remind children every day that they too are limitless despite any odds or environment. Remind them they can accomplish anything.

4) How Can I Help You? Children need to understand that they can always ask for help, but also need to know that we aren’t going to give them the answer or do the work for them. In the age of Google, Click to Read More

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5 thoughts on “Six Things I Believe Children Need to Hear More Often

  1. I must still be child-like, because I STILL want to hear all 6 of those things! I’m sure that many of us can look back and recall the people in our lives that either lifted us up or knocked us down by their words. Now, how do we want to be remembered? – as the encourager or the discourager?? We all find ourselves saying the wrong things at times, but do we always fix it? If you have said something that brings someone else down, pick them back up! The Golden Rule is so simple, but so hard to follow. We ALL want to be praised and lifted up! Why? – because we were made in His image, and that is what He wants – our praises!! Thank you for the reminder, Mr. Croy.

  2. My favorite thing I like to say to my little boy is “Good job!” I think it’s important to give praise when praise is due, and to be specific about it. It’s much better than telling your kids, “you’re the best” because it’s not as sincere. Plus it encourages children to DO well, work on their actions, without the pressure of being the perfect child.

  3. I think I’ve told all 4 of my children over the years, “I believe in you”, no matter who, or what situation stood in their way “I believe in you” usually helped them make the right choice, or right decision.

  4. You are God’s child, He created you with special gifts and talents that only you can do for His glory! God will be with every day in every way. I love you unconditionally! I am proud of who you are becoming. You can do anything!